I have to face the horrifying experiences of cat-calling
even when I am wearing a simple pair of jeans and a t-shirt on a daily basis
while walking down the road. I have to go through horrendous groping dressed in
the same manner while travelling in the crowded metro on a daily basis. There
was an incident which goes as such - on a weekday office time in an overcrowded
metro a bunch of office-goer men were literally pushing me out of the door
saying me to board the metro through the door beside “ladies” seat as if rest
of the doors are entitled to ”gents”.
Maximum of male passengers of public transport and male
pedestrians acts as if the road and public transport vehicles belongs to them
and as if they are the only tax-payers for infrastructural development and we
are nothing but “useless-eaters”. We women contribute to 50% (approximately) of
Indian population. We provide more than 50% of the workforce whether it is
domestic or industrial yet we earn less than 2/3rd of what overall male population
earns.
We are not supposed to be ogled at by any anonymous passerby
as if we are booby–waisty-butty aliens from Venus roaming around on the
streets. We should stand tall against all those incidents of sexual oppression
and should fight against all those oppressors in our own might and consider
those who watch an incident of sexual oppression or harassment on a lady and
keep their calm as a partner of an act of sexual oppression. All those silent
onlookers are as mentally regressive as those oppressors.
If a woman goes to lodge a complaint of sexual harassment,
leave alone complaints of rapes, they are faced with another round of sexual
harassment by the police men who raise uncivilized questions regarding social
habits, drinking habits, dressing habits as well as sleeping habits of those
women and prolonged this questioning sessions till midnight ending with saying
“let’s grab a drink in nearest pub”. Here the protectors are word-raping the
victims.
To end this all, I say, as a slut walker, I do not demand
the freedom to dress skimpily. What I hate the most is that the supposingly
“moral teachers” tell women how to dress but does not teach men not to rape. Oh
well I get it, men think women are the source of corruption and that in order
to stop the world coming to an end you must tell us what to think and how to
act (and what to wear) because of course we have no brains, no sense of social
responsibility, no spirituality and no reason. Women are constantly preached to
about social responsibilities even though we are not the ones responsible for
most domestic abuse, violence, crime, rape or “corruption”.
It’s time for our menfolk to preach to themselves about
social responsibility. I believe both men and women have responsibilities to
act and dress modestly. So men, be respectful to our intelligence and change
yourself instead of blaming us for your perverted minds. All I want is not being
blamed in any manner whatsoever, whether for dress, mannerism or life-style,
for having being raped or sexually harassed. Neither do I believe that all men
harass women nor am I a misandrist. I participate in this movement as I am
against anyone who harasses ANYBODY and anyone who tries to blame ANYBODY for
having been harassed- man, women or transgender.
- By Moupriya Das